I agree with and understand your point. It took quite a long time for me to realize the point in that when I read it. My mind fought it until I decided to find that bit of logic I believed had to be hidden somewhere in there.

The choice is always up to the individual. So it is impossible to exclude it as an option.

But, actually what (I believe) was meant (by the original author) was that you shouldn’t think of it as an option.

Because that is the easier way out and many abandon their relationship too soon (because of that option).

Technically speaking, every situation can be solved, depending on the capability and motivation of the individual trying to solve it.

But that ‘leaving’ option diminishes motivation. Again, with extreme situation in sight, leaving MUST (AND IS) ALWAYS be possible.

It kind of reminds me of the headache pill. Most people just take the pill, never getting to consider the real cause and trying to solve it.

I don’t mean to be disrespectful here about you choosing your husband:

Not seeing leaving as an option, but always willing to fight for your relationship sounds like a rare personal characteristic today.